What You Need To Know About Ass Play Experience Level and Safe Anal Play

The Importance of Knowing Your Anal Play “Position”

Safe anal play is important! Whether you are playing alone in the privacy of your own home, on your erotic phone sex call with a sexy guiding voice or in real-time with a partner, there are things you need to know, keep in mind, and practice in order to have an incredibly stimulating, comfortable, and safe anal play experience.

Contrary to how any of us might like to imagine a steamy assplay interlude could be with your being bent over a bed or table, big dildo headed toward your tight hole like a heat-seeking missile, followed by your being roughly opened wide and pounded with immediate ferocity, that is NOT an advisable experience for a novice or even intermediate partaker of ass play.

This same recommendation goes for playing alone, when you may become so excited and overwhelmed with ass play passion, that you want to abruptly drop yourself down on or otherwise shove the toy of your choice where the sun doesn’t shine.

If you are at any level of assplay other than advanced (who have learned over time and can attest to the importance of anal play responsibility and “procedure”), the following guidelines will provide you with the structure for engaging in the most pleasurable and mind-blowing ass play experiences ever!

Determining Your Anal Play Experience Level

When determining what your level of experience with anal play is, it is important that you look at several factors, and take them into account separately and together. If you are at a deficit where one or more of these aspects is concerned, let that translate as less experienced and requiring that you use more caution and restraint in your ass play decision-making. With anal play, an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure!

Learning To Be Your Own Best Ass FUCKR

An entertaining way to know where and how you need to look at and your assplay experience level is by using the acronym FUCKR, which breaks down those things you need to evaluate before getting your ass groove on.

Familiarity With Your Body and Its Responses

Before you ever begin playing with your fingers or toys, you need to understand and keep in the forefront of your mind the fact that your posterior nether region is a very delicate area. It is very easy to injure yourself, so you need to ALWAYS listen to your body.

Take plenty of time to slowly explore different sensations, noting what your body tells you about pleasure, discomfort, and pain. If you EVER feel anything your body perceives as pain, STOP what you are doing immediately. Pushing through slight discomfort is one thing; causing pain in your anal area -whether externally or internally- is a completely different thing, and one that can indicate impending injury.

Over time and continued play, your body will teach you what is acceptable and what it deems inappropriate in any given moment. Listen and learn!

Uncertainty Of What To Do Or Where To Begin

If you are an ass play virgin or new to the anal play scene, just remember to plan and pace yourself. There is no need to get carried away. If you are not sure of the best place to begin, exactly how to pace yourself of what to do, there are plenty of resources out there for you. Do a search using pertinent terms and phrases (i.e., anal play, anal toys, butt plug, anal sex, anal penetration, etc.). Those phrases beginning with “how to…” can be useful. Look for online informational articles, books, and discussion boards or forums dedicated to those who are fans of anal play. This is also where a Mistress who specializes in anal play can be one of your best resources.

Regardless of where you look for information, know that lube is a staple of your anal play, and NEVER use ANY sex toy without it. Grab your lube and put it to use BEFORE you begin attempting any anal penetration.

Comfort With Different Shapes and Sizes of Anal Toys

Rule #1 here is to never go too big too soon OR too fast too soon. Both are recipes for disaster! Take plenty of time and be patient with yourself when experimenting with an item you have never used, items you infrequently use, and those that are larger than with what you are used to playing.

Pay attention to how your body tells you it feels about different shapes of butt plugs, dildos, and other toys. How do you feel about a toy whose girth is uniform versus tapered (from top to bottom)? What about a marginal taper versus a marked one? Do you prefer the feeling of dildo that has a realistic shape or one that does not? Do you like a butt plug that is slender all the way to the base or one that flares out from tip to base? Do you like a gently sloped base or one that is more bulbous? How does your body feel about various lengths?

All of these descriptions are relative to your own experience level, so do keep your consideration of them within your own individual context. As you gain experience, you will learn your body’s personal preferences.

Know Your Anal Play Sex Toys

Take the time to research anal sex toys and know what is available to you. Educate yourself and read reviews on the different anal toy options – from anal beads and balls to butt plugs (i.e., training sets of progressive size, singular plugs, inflatable, vibrating, specialty plugs, etc.) to dildos (i.e., “standard,” inflatable, vibrating, suction cup base, standard harness compatible, Vac-U-Lock compatible, and more). Visiting discussion boards and forums (as mentioned above) is also a good place to read reviews, learn more about various toys and specifications, individual experiences, and even ask questions of your own.

In learning about the range of anal toys available, also look at available textures, materials, sizes, and degrees of flexibility, as all of these factors play a part in your anal experience.

Regularity of Your Anal Play

The regularity of your anal experiences sets the tone and should suggest boundaries for all of your ass play adventures. With regularity comes familiarity, increased comfort level, enhanced mental relaxation (which is an important part of anal sex of any kind), and a greater degree of muscle memory of your internal and external sphincter muscles (incidentally, both of which are inside your body). The depth of each of these factors is directly correlated with your experience level.

Think about how often (on average) you engage in anal play with your fingers or toys. Obviously, if you rarely or sporadically play with either of those, you are going to fall in the category of a low level of experience; therefore, you must use great discretion and caution when you do play. It’s going to take you longer to warm up and you’re going to need to stick with the smaller anal toys.

If you make anal stimulation and penetration a part of your sex play on a more (semi-)regular basis, you can be a little more adventurous. However, you still need to be mindful of how long it has been since you engaged in some ass play and what you used. Warm-up is still important, as is attention to the size of the sex toy(s) you use.

Now, if you’re one who plays at least once a week or more (and especially have for some time), your muscles have developed a solid “memory” of and proclivity for knowing how to stretch out to accommodate the size of toys to which you have become accustomed. You probably won’t need the degree of warm-up as the aforementioned ass players, but it is always a good idea to take some time becoming relaxed and engage in some initial toying with an anal goody you have frequently and easily conquered previously. That gets you prepped for being more daring and trying new things. After all, anal play is certainly an activity where practice makes perfect.

Why is all this self-awareness of your level of ass play experience really so important? If you know your body, your capabilities, and your sex toys, you are well on your way to having the safest, most comfortable, and most thrilling anal play experiences you can have. Always remember that knowing your own boundaries -both mental and physical- is the single best guide you can have when you are indulging in any form of anal play.

Here’s to your safe and ecstatic anal play endeavors!

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