Tips For Fantastic Strap On Sex

Fantastic strap on sex can be an amazing experience for a submissive and Mistress. If you are considering this type of Femdom session this article will give you a few tips on what to consider before your session. If you are experienced you will find some ways to level up your strap-on play,  even introducing some other kinky elements that you might not have thought of.

These tips and tricks are very generalized. And every Mistress has her own style and preferences.  As always, your Strapon Mistress is the best source for your individualized needs.

Considering Strap-on Sex

Don’t jump into strapon play blind.  Do your research, like you are now. Learn about anal sex and how to stay safe a clean.  When you can answer the following questions, you are ready to consider the next step.

Why does strap-on sex appeal to you? What are your expectations? Do you understand why it feels good? What role do condoms play? Should I douche? Does it hurt?

We cannot help you with the first two answers, that’s for a sexy call with your Mistress.  Part of your strap on experience is sharing your intimate thoughts with Mistress. Ask any questions you may have. This will help you have realistic expectations when you play.

Why Strap On Sex Feels Good

Understanding the mechanics can help alleviate much of the anxiety people might have with strap-on sex. First, the asshole,  or sphincter is nerve-rich tissue and it is pleasurable to stimulate it. The feeling of being full and relaxing through it is pleasurable, we tend to want to tense up when we feel pressure in that area.

The prostate is the MVP of strap-on sex. Stimulating the prostate/nerves produces a great deal of pleasure. During your fantastic strap-on sex session, you might feel an increase in pressure and you may want to stop, fearing “the worse”. Try to bend into it, as long as you are not in pain. It means you’re whipping that prostate into a frenzy and you just might orgasm!  Just communicate with your Mistress, and let her know how you are feeling when she checks in with you.

Strap on Sex And Condoms

If one lock is good, then two are better. Right? Same with safe strap-on play. Wash your toy thoroughly with toy-safe soap and hot water, and drying thoroughly is mandatory before stashing them away. It is imperative to keep your toy clean and prevent the unfortunate repercussions of your lazy hygiene habits. Trust you don’t want to know details, but if you must know it’s another great topic of discussion with your Mistress. So washing is one safe way to keep things looking pretty. However, using a condom on the toy and then tossing it and cleaning the toy is better.

The preferred method is to keep toys specific to the play. So strap-ons used for the back door only go in the back door. Toys for other play, oral, and vaginal all are kept in those areas. Along with using condoms when required.

Fantastic Strap-On Sex Starts With Feeling Comfortable

Most people feel more comfortable and confident if they do use a gentle douche before the session. Please allow at least two hours for your first experience to ensure you are feeling good and ready to rock and roll!

While we are talking about being clean and safe, make sure the back door is ready for play. If you have a medical condition you might want to make sure it’s safe for you to play. Ask your doctor, search the internet for your condition, and “safe anal sex”. At the very least discuss with your Mistress well before your session, to ensure she’s comfortable with your challenges and moving forward.

Does Strap on Play Hurt

Explore What Toys You Enjoy

Other than pressure, it should not hurt. Since the sphincter is a very strong muscle, it can adapt. But go slowly, start off small. The majority of people who try strap-on sex spend time experimenting and gradually increasing the size of the toy they play with. Starting with warm-lubed fingers, moving to a beginner set of butt plugs. Then onto actual dildos. Slimmer is usually easier to get used to. You can use the circumference of your butt plugs as a guide when selecting other toys. Prostate massage toys are really great for training that prostate and are highly recommended for training your body to that stimulation.

Sexy Options For Strap-On Play

For those here for some sexy tips consider the following fun ways to spice things up.

Try vibrating strap-on dildos or other textured and curved dildos.
Hot steaming towel (not too hot, you should be able to hold it comfortably)  and wrap your dildo in it for ten minutes before play.
Warm the lube to just above tepid (room temperature)
Cold therapy, is just the opposite plop your dildo in cool water for a few moments before lubing and playing.
Blindfold and/or mouth gag. Fan favorite: Panties
Try every and all positions, you never know until you try!
For those very adventurous squirting dildos! There are many products on the market to use as fake ejaculate, but often water works just fine.
Kegels, learn them, practice them, love them.

Reach Out For Your Fantastic Strap-on Session

Ready to explore fantastic strap-on sex? Our strap on Femdommes can’t wait to meet you and they will have their own sexy tips to make your strap-on session fantastic.  Bring your questions and your fun-loving spirit and we’ll take care of the rest.