Interview with Strap-On Domme Ms. Ryan
So you’ve spent some time thinking about strap ons and even what it would feel like to submit to a Strap-on Domme who knows just how to control you with one. But you’re nervous aren’t you? You have questions, but are afraid to walk up to one of our Mistresses and ask, well I’ve done that for you.
The very sexy and brilliant Ms. Ryan, agreed to answer some questions about being a Strap On FemDom (in exchange for naughty flashing and playing). So, read on to find out what Ms. Ryan had to say:
1. What do you like most about using strap ons on men?
Ms. Ryan: It’s the power that comes from being the one “on top”. The ultimate act of male submission is to do something that goes so far against the grain of what they know is acceptable SIMPLY because they have been asked/told to do so. That is submission in its most perfect form. You do it because I ask you to … and you enjoy it in spite of yourself. That speaks volumes to who I am as a Mistress and feeds that spark of dominance inside of me (OK, so maybe it’s more than JUST a spark).
Not to mention, I have learned that using a strapon with a man makes me cum harder than anything else I have done.
2. Anything you like least?
Ms. Ryan: There are things NOT to like about power exchange, role reversal and female dominance …. wow, that’s news to me.
3. Advice from a Strap-On Domme: Should everyone try this?
Ms. Ryan: Strapons are like sticky toffee. When you like that sort of thing, it’s the ultimate indulgence … it’s sweet and thick and hits you in JUST the right spot. But if you aren’t into that sort of thing, you are only going to be left feeling sticky and used. *chuckle*
I don’t think “everyone” should try it … but if the idea has crossed your mind more than twice in your lifetime, your subconscious is trying to tell you something.
4. Are butt plugs and strap on sex about the same?
Ms. Ryan: Is driving a Mercedes on the Audobahn the same as sitting in your Corolla at the WalMart parking lot?
5. Tips for newbies to strap on sex?
Ms. Ryan: a. Ease into it … you don’t have to take the huge 10” monster cock all in one go on your first try. In fact, I strongly encourage you NOT go for all 10 at once (unless it’s mine … then, I have to insist Darth Invader get his due).
b. Lube is your friend. Let me re-iterate … >USE LUBE. I cannot stress this enough. Your manpussy/bitch hole/anal entrance will not “naturally stretch” to accommodate anything sliding in.
c. It’s not enough to just lubricate the strapon. You have to make sure that your … ahem … entrance … is also properly wet. I suggest using a lubricant applicator to make sure you get it “all the way up”
d. Relax and enjoy yourself. This is a gift you are giving to your Strap-On Domme, as well as to yourself. It should be an enjoyable experience and one that you look forward to repeating on many occasions.
e. Protect yourself (and your toys) by using condoms … EVERY time. With a strapon, you don’t have to listen to the argument that it ‘doesn’t feel as good’. Trust me … the dildo doesn’t know the difference.
6. Is it painful?
Ms. Ryan: The first time can be quite uncomfortable if you don’t relax and take the necessary precautions. Relaxation techniques such as deep breathing and tantric massage can help you become comfortable enough to begin your strapon play.
Again, I must insist that you use Lube … and don’t be stingy with it. There isn’t a shortage of lubricant in the world … you aren’t going to use the last of it and then leave everyone else high and dry, I promise.
7. How long have you been doing this?
Ms. Ryan: Let’s see. I’ve been a Mistress for 20 years (give or take) … I’ve been doing phone sex sessions for about 4 years. I’ve been a Strapon Mistress pretty much from the beginning … I started off with role reversal and it just snowballed from there.
Hmm … snowball … coerced cum-eating … Wait, I need a moment …
8. Favorite position?
Ms. Ryan: One second … I’m still enjoying the coerced cum-eating moment … while you are flat on your back underneath me. Legs hooked over my shoulders while I stare down at you and pin your body in half … to let you watch as Darth Invader slowly sinks into place.
Yeah … I’m going to need another moment
9. Most memorable session as a Strap-On Domme?
Ms. Ryan: I had a male submissive that I was playing with, having a nice light spanking session when I noticed that he’d started to tilt his ass back and grind his hips; sticking his ass out to meet my hand as it came down but also, he’d begun grinding and moaning. The heat from his ass while being spanked was seeping through my clothes.
We’d discussed the possibility of anal play in the past and he said he wasn’t against it but it wasn’t something he’d ever given serious thought to. So I started fondling his ass while spanking him, feeling how much he’d grind back against my hand and I could see how hard his cock was. I slid my finger against the top of his ass and he practically came just from that … I knew I had him.
I had him stand perfectly still while I went to fetch my strapon and lubed it up behind him (he had no idea what I’d been up to). I spanked him a few more times to heighten his sensation of subspace and I could see his cock leaking pre-cum.
On the last swing of my hand down against his bottom, he pushed back and felt the head of my strap-on press up against his ass cheeks … it didn’t penetrate him, just pressed against him and he started begging me to fuck him … begging me to “Please Mistress Strap-On Domme, let me feel that huge strap-on inside of me!” (for the record, it wasn’t very large … this was PD … or “Pre Darth.”)
Needless to say, some 10 minutes later after I’d lubricated him and allowed him to grind back against my strapon, he was ready … and once we’d gotten the strapon all the way inside of him, the expression on his face was glorious … I knew he’d tripped off into subspace and he was just enjoying the sensation of this new experience.
His submission to me, his Strap-On Domme … to allow me the grace of watching him pump up and down was enough to give me an orgasm without any stimulation to my body whatsoever … which was the first (but certainly not the last) time that had happened.
10. Biggest difference in your opinion between a strap on and a dick? (besides the obvious not flesh and blood thing)
Ms. Ryan: I can wear a strapon … I don’t think I’d look right with a dick. It wouldn’t fit into my panties!
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